Slacking on the bloggers front

I never thought I would say that I would flop at blogging but recently I have. So many things have happened in the last two months it has been difficult to keep on top of things. It might be time to sort my shit out and plan what I’m going to write about for a change, I’m kinda a last minute person.

Keep an eye out on what will be featured on here soon ūüôā

The endless pressure when in a relationship

So I have been with the other half for nearly four years but he’s been in and out of my life for 10. People often have this expectation that we need to rush into things as we’ve been together for so long but we’re quite happy as we are. We both have no responsibilities and we can enjoy our own space and pretty much do whatever we want, whenever we want.

We’ve found out fairly recently that we’re going to be an auntie and uncle – YAY! Super happy about that and can’t wait to meet him. We were at a party the other day and once it was announced people instantly came up to us and said ‘You two are next, when will it happen?’ My response was it’ll happen in our own time. We get this all of the time and I really don’t know what the rush is? Someone please tell me?

I am not sure why but when you’re in a relationship there is so much pressure to quickly get engaged, move in and have a family. For me, I want to be able to enjoy what selfish time I have, do random things together and be able to have an argument without it affecting our household or family life.

Maybe I’m too laid back but to be honest I am not ready for that, its a huge life change and we’re both on the same wave length. I want to be sure that once I’ve made this step, it is the right one and I don’t want to turn back. I doubt I will want to turn back because I love the guy but people do struggle to adjust to change and I am one of them.

Who else has this to deal with as I can’t be the only one?!

When things get a little hectic

For the last month my life has been full of ups and downs but I am trying to focus on the ups. My blog has been full of negativity recently but this is because this is the only place I express my feelings. Now I need to stop moaning, get on with it and smile! I have so many things planned so far for this year and they’re quite exciting.

I will be writing a review on a musical today so watch out for that.

How to fall asleep without taking tablets

Are you tired and tired of taking pills to help you sleep? Well I have been struggling to sleep for a while now, I’m tired during the day but then when I get into bed I feel like I could stay awake for another hour or two. It starts to take its toll on you, bags are getting darker under my eyes, mood swings and finally, my energy is completely sucked from my body. Yep, if you’ve ticked all of those boxes like me then I may have something that could help you – read on.

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So since joining Avon I have been able to experiment with various products that they sell. I came across the ‘Pillow Sleep Mist’ with the free Avon products I received and now I can’t be without it!

How does it work?

Well I spray it 3-4 times on either side of my pillow and the lavender scent instantly relaxes your mind. For me I have been able to fall asleep within 15-20 minutes of using this rather than an hour later. It has 5 star ratings on the Avon website and I am yet to review it because I have slept all the way through the night. I wake up feeling refreshed and so pleased that I wasn’t disturbed.

If you would like to purchase this, please visit: http://www.avon.uk.com/store/SJSMITH-Shop and type in ‘sleep mist’ in the search bar.

Recommended Kindle books please

Since being made redundant I have turned into a gigantic bookworm again. This is great for me because I’m getting lost in books and I love it! However, I have two weeks left in France (I am so sad that I’m leaving) and I am looking for Kindle book recommendations.

I was able to borrow The Lovely Bones by Alice Sebold from the local library in Sierentz but they only have about 10 English books so I need some digital books to read. I’m nearly half way through this book and I love the detail of the characters, situations and basically the whole story so far, it is an incredible book to read.

My list that I have read since August minus the kids books:

1) The Sound by Sarah Alderson
2) The Wrong Knickers by Bryony Gordon
3) The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins
4) Elizabeth is Missing by Emma Healey (only just started)
5) The Lovely Bones by Alice Sebold (currently reading)
6) I Hate That You Bloody Left Me by Heather Hill

From 15th October for 5 days, I Hate That You Bloody Left Me by Heather Hill will be free to download. Make sure you click the link above to download it, it is currently £1.99 and a great spend!

So if you have something you’ve seen on the Amazon store or that you have on your Kindle, please comment below and I’ll check them out! If you’re an author and would like me to read your book and review it, there is a contact form in my ‘About Me’ section.

Get spamming with some fantastic books ¬†ūüôā

You’re just double jointed so get over it

Why did I choose this title you might be asking? Well I am not ‘just double jointed’. One thing I need to say,¬†you have no idea of the daily struggles of living with an invisible illness. People often stare at one another, on the train, on the bus, in a queue but no one actually knows if that person is okay just because they’re able-bodied. Welcome to judgemental life.

Will you tell us what is wrong?

Of course, I suffer with¬†Joint Hypermobility Syndrome which is a connective tissue disorder as well as Fibromyalgia. It affects people differently, in my case I am fairly lucky to not have a severe form but I still have to adapt to certain things. For me, being tired is the worst pain of all because I’m not tired, I am physically and mentally exhausted and a nap doesn’t fix the problem. Sleeping for hours and hours helps but then I wake up and within three hours I feel I need to sleep again. It is like a reoccurring nightmare.

1) Career

Oh it is easy to get a job, there are so many jobs out there – I hear this ALL of the time. Yes I know there are jobs out there but I can’t just waltz into a job like a completely healthy person, I need to choose carefully. It might seem daft but even working in retail and hospitality¬†causes me grief. Working on my feet all day is a disaster, the pain is awful and the swollen ankles tops it off. ‘Oh just take some painkillers.’ – No because that is not the answer. The answer is to have a job you believe in, you want to do and one that does not cause you physical damage. The doctors told me I needed to consider changing my career path (when I was 18) as I will cause myself lasting damage. Self-employment has always been advised to me by doctors but it isn’t guaranteed income which is something I need to figure out and plan.

When I was working in hospitality I spent a lot of the time hiding my pain behind a fake smile. Home time was my favourite part of the night, I would get to go home in agony, crawl into bed and cry. It felt fantastic. It also made me feel extremely low about myself because I was incapable of doing my job. I often cried at work, my colleagues would find me washing up or trying to pour a pint whilst crying. Shame and embarrassment was a common feeling for me and I had to quit my job for something more suitable. From then on, I have stuck to office work.

2) Outings

The worse topic for me. Planning an outing is difficult whether it is with friends or my boyfriend, I always have to be considered. When people tell you they would love to go ice skating, roller blading or for a night out, my mood instantly drops. Ice skating is my worst fear because it feels like my ankles are on fire and¬†I feel guilty for having to sit down or hide the fact I want to burst into tears. The guilt that goes through your head at each outings you go to makes you fear the next one. I have ruined many nights out with friends because my ankle has collapsed and I have needed to go to A&E and they’ve had to come with me. Then there’s the ‘Guys I’m really suffering *sniff* I need to sit down or go home.’ – Oh I dread that phrase and I’m sure my friends do as well. SORRY GUYS, I LOVE YOU!!

3) Day to-day

Each day is different for me, sometimes I am suffering and other days I can be as happy as a lamb jumping through a field. Today is a bad day, my back is sore and my ankles are because I have over done it with housework – I know, call the excitement police. Most days I just want to sleep and be left alone because my moods are all over the place. I probably should have a WARNING sign attached to my head when I’m having a bad day. I appreciate it when people ask if I’m okay or if I need time on my own as I don’t need to explain myself nor snap at anyone. Thank you!

4) When winter is coming

Ah, every joint, Arthritic and Raynaud sufferers worst nightmare. The cold really aggravates sore joints and makes you want to hibernate for the entire winter. However, I do love winter, I love the scenery, the fact I can sleep at night and use a hot water bottle if needs be and it is my favourite season. I love the fact I can choose my temperature and keep myself warm.

As much as I would like to, I can’t speak for everyone who has been diagnosed with Hypermobility Syndrome but we are not the same people. I want to raise more awareness about this condition and this is one of the reasons I wrote this post. It is important to show¬†that other things exist and to help educate.

This little keyring is something that I adore because I do not have to explain anything to anyone if I have an accident. It is there, it does not say what it¬†means but at least if I am unconscious people can ‘Google’ if they need to and find out what the condition is. Thank you to Memories Enclosed who made this.

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Medical Alert Keyring

So I am not¬†‘just double jointed’ it is¬†something a bit more serious than doing fancy party tricks and putting on a show. Yes I am able-bodied but you have no right to judge anyone and take a minute to think about others. If you see someone who is screwing up their face or gripping onto anything they can whilst on public transport maybe ask yourself one question ‘Should I see if they would like my seat?’.

Life lessons

Since I was 16 I have always worked. Since being made redundant my life and how I see things¬†has completely¬†changed. I came across an article a few weeks ago of a girl who quit her job because she wanted to go travelling for 6 months and she¬†had a good job¬†as well. She wasn’t afraid of what might happen next, she took the plunge and just did what she wanted to do. That article inspired me and now¬†looking at what happened 2 weeks ago, I am glad¬†I was made redundant.

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Basel, Basle – Switzerland

Life Lesson:

Put yourself first and if you see an exciting opportunity do not hold back, just go for it and never regret the things you have done. Now is the time to be selfish and to go for random experiences rather than sitting back and letting time go by. As Nike would say, just do it.

“To my mind, the greatest reward and luxury of travel
is to be able to experience
everyday things as if for the first time,
to be in a position in which
almost nothing is so familiar it is taken for granted.”
-Bill Bryson